The Surprising Relationship Between Body Structure and the 'Inability to Love Yourself'

"I'm still not good enough," "It's my fault anyway," "I haven't achieved anything." Are you unconsciously saying these things to yourself?

In your 40s. Caring for family, responsible work, raising children, and the creeping anxiety of menopause and the future. While running to perfectly fulfill countless roles, has "blaming yourself" become your daily default setting before you knew it?

Generally, for the problem of strong self-denial, people tend to say things like this.

• "Let's raise our self-esteem (mental theory)"

• "Say positive words to yourself (spiritual theory)"

• "You lack the courage to believe in yourself (guts theory)"

But, I declare this.The reason you cannot love yourself is not because you have a gloomy personality or because you lack effort. It is because your body is physically locked in a 'high-alert state (survival mode)' to protect itself.

1. The Brain's 'Defense Response' and the Never-Ending Alert

From the perspective of brain science, self-denial is a brain self-defense function that 'anticipates to avoid getting hurt.' Against the '100 soldiers (conscious mind)' that govern reason, the '900 elite troops (subconscious mind)' that protect survival instincts are applying the brakes, telling you 'don't expect anything' before you get hurt.

And this 'mental brake' causes the following physical bugs in your body.

• The 'Neck Pipe' Traffic Jam: The tension of 'I have to do it right' raises your shoulders and stiffens your neck muscles. This physically constricts the lifeline that carries oxygen and energy to the brain.

• The Command Center's 'Out of Gas': The brain, no longer receiving the gasoline called oxygen, causes the 'frontal lobe,' which governs calm judgment and self-acceptance, to freeze.

• Physical 'Combat Posture': Shallow breathing, clenching your teeth, and a hunched posture (the 'black overtime' state) act as a powerful signal to the brain that 'this is an emergency! Look for danger!'

In other words, as long as your body is tense, your brain is structured to instinctively keep looking for your own flaws (dangers).

2. Checking the 'Foundation of Safety' You Can Do Right Here and Now

Try this right now for just 30 seconds.

1. Drop your shoulders, which are raised from effort, straight down.

2. Relax your stomach, and exhale through your nose, long and thin, until you are empty.

3. After that, try saying to yourself in your heart, 'I'm doing just fine today.' ...Doesn't a sense of relief spread in your chest just a little bit?

3. A 'Ceasefire Signal to the Brain' You Can Do in 1 Minute

Before you try to 'boost your self-esteem,' let's first RESET your body to 'peace mode'.

1. Vertical Wi-Fi connection to the Earth through your 'heels': Drop your weight firmly onto the area directly beneath your ankles (your heels). Simply stopping the unstable 'forward-leaning center of gravity (a life of leaning forward)' will help your brain let its guard down.

2. Declutter the weight on your shoulders by just '2cm': Lower your shoulders whenever you remember to. This alone opens up the 'circulation to the brain' that was previously congested, naturally creating the space (margin) to think, 'Maybe I'm okay just as I am.'

'Tomorrow, just once when you look in the mirror'. That is more than enough.

4. Rather than trying hard, 'loosen up first'

Trying hard to love yourself is a 'waste' of life. Up until today, you have worked hard enough to protect yourself and have lived by putting your body on the line. Instead of trying to change your 'mind,' please first release the tension in your 'body.' If your body relaxes, your mind will naturally regain its sense of security.

Poor physical condition and self-denial are not 'proof that you are no good,' but rather proof that your body has been desperately trying to protect you.

I will produce your body into a 'peaceful structure that is wrapped in an overwhelming sense of security just by standing.' For now, why don't you take a deep breath and let the tension out of your shoulders just a little?

Thank you for reading until the end! I am rooting for you with all my might so that you can trust your own body as your best partner and enjoy your days with lightness.

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