Itadaki Girls Use Jealousy to Control Others
An Action Psychology Marketer Explains the "How to Make Them Pay Manual" of Itadaki Girls [Part 8]
The Psychological Manipulation Technique of "Jealousy"
How to Use Jealousy to Control Someone's Feelings
Jealousy is considered the most powerful and dangerous emotion in a romantic relationship. However, in reality, there is no emotion that is easier to exploit and use to skillfully manipulate someone's feelings than jealousy.
The reason humans feel jealousy is simple. It is because "the fear of losing" and "the desire to possess" intersect. Especially in romance, the anxiety that "someone else might take away my special person" intensely stirs up feelings of jealousy. By turning this psychology against them, it becomes possible to powerfully draw the other person's feelings toward you.
When using jealousy, the most important thing to be careful about is its "intensity".
Too much jealousy will cause the other person's emotions to spiral out of control and destroy the relationship. On the other hand, too little jealousy is completely ineffective and may even cause the other person's interest to wane. In other words, the most effective way to use jealousy is to keep it at a level of "making them slightly jealous".
A concrete way to make them slightly jealous is to "implicitly hint at the existence of other romantic interests." The key is "not to explicitly threaten the other person". For example, showing light interactions with others on social media or
jokingly mentioning that you are popular lately is good. This subtle nuance creates a moderate sense of tension in the other person, making them think, "If I don't step up, I might lose them to someone else."
Another important thing is "the follow-up after the jealousy". If you only provide jealousy, the other person will become distrustful of you. That is why you need a follow-up that treats them specially right after making them feel jealous. For example, by emphasizing their special status by saying, "But there is no one as comfortable to be with as you," or "I feel at ease because you are here," the other person will reaffirm their position and become even more obsessed with you.
In psychology, this is called the 'Contrast Effect of Jealousy.' Once they feel jealousy and then receive reassurance, the other person's brain resolves the "anxiety felt from jealousy" with the "sense of security felt afterward," leading them to experience a strong sense of pleasure. This sensation will further increase their dependence on you.
On the other hand, there are also points to be careful about when using jealousy manipulation techniques.
That is to assess the type of person you are dealing with. For example, if the other person is a "taker," slight jealousy might actually be counterproductive, as they may feel their position is threatened and react aggressively. Conversely, if they are a "giver," even a little jealousy will often cause them to take initiative and make an effort to attract your interest.
Jealousy is not something to be used in the long term. It is best used as a spice when the other person's interest has temporarily waned or when the relationship has become stagnant. If used too frequently, the other person will get used to the stimulation, and the effect will diminish.
A clever jealousy technique is truly a battle of psychological balance.
Without being too strong or too weak, while moderately stimulating the other person, you must constantly make them reaffirm your value. Through that repetition, the other person's heart will unconsciously be drawn to you, naturally creating a situation where they cannot leave.
If you are thinking, "I want to draw the other person's heart closer to me," please make use of this "psychological manipulation technique of jealousy."
Moderate jealousy is a magic technique that can dramatically increase the other person's interest, not only in romance but also in human relationships and business.