Conversation Techniques to Make a 'Itadaki Joshi' Target Fall Seriously in Love

An Action Psychology Marketer Explains the 'Itadaki Joshi' (Gift-Getting Girl) [Money-Making Manual] (Part 13)

How to Create Deep Psychological Romantic Feelings

The 'Itadaki Joshi' [Money-Making Manual] states that there are two types of love: 'casual love' and 'serious love' (gachi-koi).
Casual love is lighthearted and fun, but it is merely a fleeting emotion.
On the other hand, 'serious love' is a powerful emotion where the other person becomes strongly attached to you and unable to let go from the deepest part of their heart. Interestingly, this serious love is not born by chance, but can be intentionally created through conversation.

To understand the psychological mechanism of serious love, you first need to know the psychological technique called "self-disclosure." Self-disclosure is a method of bringing the other person's heart closer to yours by honestly talking about your inner self and weaknesses.
Why does self-disclosure lead to serious love? It is because when people feel they are "specially trusted"by someone else, they feel a strong sense of intimacy toward that person.

"You are the only one I tell these things to."
"I can only show my true self to you."
Intentionally include phrases like these in your conversation.
Then, the other person will unconsciously begin to feel strongly that "I am a special existence to this person." This is the powerful effect of self-disclosure and the foundation for creating feelings of serious love.

The next important technique is "sharing emotions."
By specifically conveying your emotions to the other person, they will begin to resonate deeply with your feelings. For example, if you directly express emotions like "I felt a little lonely today" or "I feel uneasy when I can't see you," the other person will alsounconsciously begin to harbor similar feelings. This is what psychology calls the "mirroring effect."Emotions (even if pseudo) are contagious, and your emotions will create intense romantic feelings in the other person's heart.

To create even more powerful feelings of serious love, the technique of using "past secrets" is also effective. This is a method of intentionally sharing negative past experiences, such as "Actually, I was hurt by a painful relationship in the past."
Why is this effective? Because by knowing your past wounds, the other person will feel an intense protective instinct, thinking, "I am the only one who can protect this person." By stimulating the other person's desire for protection in this way, feelings of serious love will rapidly intensify.

What you must not forget is to provide "exclusive specialness." In other words, it is important to make the other person feel that "I am the only one who understands you and can protect you, not anyone else." By using phrases like "I can't tell anyone else this" or "Only you can understand me," the other person's self-esteem is tickled, and their obsession with you becomes even stronger.

As an even more advanced technique, there is also a method of providing "unpredictable rewards." For example, while appearing indifferent most of the time, suddenly expressing emotionally, "I want to see you" or "I want to hear your voice right now," makes the other person's brain feel a strong sense of pleasure (reward). This is what psychology calls "intermittent reinforcement," and the other person will seek this unpredictable reward, causing their romantic feelings for you to become addictively heightened.

When using this technique, caution is required. If the other person's emotionsbecome too strong, their dependence and obsession will become excessive, making them difficult to handle. The key is to maintain a balance while keeping the serious love feelings at an appropriate level. To avoid trouble caused by the other person becoming too obsessed with you, it is also necessary to maintain an appropriate sense of distance.

The conversation techniques for creating serious love are by no means difficult.
The important things are "giving the other person a sense of specialness," "sharing your own weaknesses," and "conveying emotions specifically." Just by being conscious of these three points, you can enter deep into the other person's heart and easily lead them into a psychological state where they cannot leave you.

Those who control the conversation control the romance—why don't you try practicing this starting today?