Learning from 'Itadaki-joshi': Building Trust and Commitment to Manipulate Men

A Behavioral Psychology Marketer Explains the 'Itadaki-joshi' (Sugar Baby) Earning Manual [Part 3]

I happened to come across 'Itadaki-joshi Riri-chan's Manual for Making Everyone Earn Money.' I felt this was a system calculated well for everything from sales to romance, so this is the third part of my analysis from the perspective of psychological marketing.

Trust and Commitment: The Magic Conversation for Treating Someone as 'Special'

Why are people so susceptible to being treated as 'special'?
It is because, no matter how calm a person may seem, deep down in their heart, there is always a strong desire for approval lurking. If you skillfully stimulate this desire, you can easily open the doors to their heart. In the world of psychology, this is called 'trust and commitment'.

'Trust and commitment' is a psychological technique that naturally increases intimacy and, furthermore, elicits 'spontaneous devotion' from the other person by thoroughly conveying the message that 'you are a special existence' unlike anyone else.

So, how do you convey that?
Actually, the method is simple. Just casually mix phrases like 'I can only talk to you about this' or 'I can't tell anyone else, but I can tell you' into your conversation.
With just this, the other person instantly feels that they are a special existence, and the psychological distance shrinks dramatically. Humans are creatures that tend to automatically become kind to those who recognize them as special.

Furthermore, an important element to increase the effectiveness of this method is 'sharing a secret'. In psychology, it is said that when people share a secret with someone, they feel that person is very close to them. By confiding your own secrets or past episodes to the other person, they strongly feel that 'they are trusted,' and the principle of reciprocity (the psychological rule that if someone does something for you, you must do something in return) kicks in. This is what draws out further devotion from the other person.

However, this 'secret' requires finesse. Avoid anything too serious, and a light secret like 'it's hard to talk about, but I want to tell only you' is best.
For example, 'Actually, I'm shy and can't really speak my true feelings to others,' or 'I've never really fit in with those around me, but I can open my heart naturally when I talk to you' is sufficient. Conversations like these have the effect of directly conveying the message that 'I view you as special.'

A small technique to further double the effect is 'routinization'.
By repeating greetings every day, even if they are short, such as 'Good morning' or 'Good work,' you enter the other person's daily life. Then, your existence changes into an 'indispensable special existence' for them. The more this psychological dependence progresses, the more the other person will want to act for your sake, even if it means sacrificing their own interests.

The point to be careful about is that if you do these techniques too blatantly, the other person will become wary. Therefore, timing is important.
If you aim for times when the other person is feeling down or tired from work and tell them, 'I feel calm when I talk to you' or 'I felt better thanks to you,' the effect of satisfying the other person's desire for approval is maximized.

Let me give you a concrete example here. For instance, right after you exchange LINE contacts with a man, try telling him as if you were a little hesitant, 'I was a bit nervous asking only you for your LINE.'
This is a magic phrase that casually makes him feel 'special treatment different from others.' The other person immediately starts to feel, 'Wait, maybe this girl isn't interested in anyone else as much as me.' And then, follow up with words like, 'I don't usually check LINE much, but I'm curious about your replies so I check them right away.' The other person will unconsciously be forced to 'view you as special.'

However, there is also a point of caution. If this technique succeeds perfectly, the other person is likely to fall into a state of 'harmless obsessive love.'
In other words, it means there is a possibility that they will take you too seriously and become obsessed. If the other person harbors feelings that are too strong, it will also be necessary to intentionally adjust the distance.

Everyone carries loneliness deep in their hearts.
What fills that loneliness is 'an existence that treats you as special.'
Trust and commitment is a psychological technique that skillfully uses that psychology to allow you to manipulate the other person's heart at will.
If you understand these deep mechanisms of psychology, you too might be able to become a master of human relationships with just a single phrase.