Prioritize your own 'excitement' over being 'useful' to someone else
I'm Hitomi Kuboyama, and I've decided to take off my roles and live as 'myself.' Thank you for coming to read this note again today!
Have you ever suddenly stopped in your tracks when you thought, 'I'll start posting on social media or a blog!'? 'I have to write something useful that helps someone.' 'If I write about such trivial daily events, won't nobody read it?'
You know, it's common to feel pressure like that, worrying too much about someone else's standards or what the world demands.
The assumption that 'it must be useful'
Since you are posting, you want to deliver some value to the people who read it. That's because you are a kind person, full of consideration for those around you.
But if the thought 'I have to write something useful' becomes too strong, it will eventually turn into uncomfortable, pretentious posting.
And when you worry only about other people's eyes, pursuing 'usefulness' while thinking, 'Is this information correct?' or 'Other amazing people have already written about this...', you gradually become unable to write anything at all.
Posting itself becomes suffocating, and eventually, the action itself comes to a complete halt. In the past, I was more caught up in the 'trap of free'—the idea that 'if I write everything for free, I won't have anything left to sell'—rather than this 'curse of usefulness,' and I froze in front of the screen many times.
They're kind of similar, aren't they?
What people are truly attracted to is 'passion'
When we see someone's post and think, 'This person is wonderful' or 'I want to read more,' is it always because they have written excellent know-how or useful information?
Actually, I want you to realize that what truly moves people's hearts and attracts them is not the 'information itself,' but that person's 'passion.'
The sight of you being absorbed in something, enjoying it from the bottom of your heart.
The pure sense of excitement that says, 'This was so interesting!'
Even without any know-how, the words and text of someone who is laughing happily with their 'likes' in full swing have a mysterious gravitational pull that attracts people. The emotion of 'excitement' that wells up from the heart reaches much further and deeper into someone's heart than the logic thought up in the head called 'usefulness.'
Actually, articles written with your feelings just as they are, even if you aren't good at writing, often get more comments than articles written by thinking with your head.
Let's use your own 'excitement' as a compass
So, let's boldly let go of the mental brake that says, 'There might be no point in posting this!'
Why not cast off the 'must be useful' attitude of worrying about what others think, and try acting with your own 'excitement' as your compass?
I'll suggest a few small tips you can start today to shift your perspective on posting.
Use 'Am I having fun?' as the standard rather than 'For someone else'First, choose things that you enjoy writing about and that make your heart flutter. Writing that you don't find fun won't convey any joy to the reader either.
Don't hide your slightly geeky 'likes'The things you think, 'Nobody is interested in this, right?' are exactly what make up your true-to-life personality! Attracted by that enthusiasm, warm friends who share the same 'likes' will naturally gather around you.
Record 'what moved your heart today' even if it's not usefulThe beautiful sky you found while walking, the coffee that tasted good. Even without know-how, a record of the moments that moved your heart has the power to warm someone else's heart in the same way.
First, make your own heart happy above all else
Posting is not something you do by sacrificing yourself for someone else. Instead of for others, first, make your own heart happy to your heart's content. When you satisfy your own 'likes' first and become soaked in the energy of excitement, those overflowing warm ripples will, as a result, lead to 'empathy' that gently moves someone else's heart, connecting us all.
No one has decided that you 'must be useful.' If you only want useful information, you can just ask an AI. We have 'stories' that AI cannot experience.
Today, just as you are—imperfect and lovable—let's freely release what excites you most into the world!