Can you hear the voiceless voices!?
What is important is to ask yourself not "how to convey" but "how to make it understood" (^^;
In both work and private life, it is generally thought that being logical and speaking fluently are important in communication, but that is not essential.
Whether it is emotional, spoken in a halting manner, or anything else, it is fine as long as the goal is achieved.
Rather, I think what you should keep in mind is to observe the person in front of you carefully and correctly evaluate and analyze how much your story is being understood while you are speaking.
By doing so, throwing the ball in various directions, watching the reaction to explore where their interests lie, and developing the conversation from there will definitely increase the probability of success.
This is the same not only in one-on-one situations but also when speaking in front of a large group of people.
However, when the other party is not in front of you.
For example, in the case of emails, etc., in a sense, you have to decipher the context ("background", "context", "situation") of the text, which is a voiceless voice, so the difficulty level is significantly higher due to the small amount of information (^^;
Why did they choose those words?
Why must it be that expression?
What about the cohesion of the text (grammatical cohesion, lexical cohesion)?
What is not written?
And so on.
In this way, I try to read with the understanding that it is difficult to actually decipher "sentences" or "writings" that have been intentionally written.
In other words, recognizing that our communication environment is always in a poor state, when I send a message myself, I think that "how it was conveyed to the other party" is everything!
I would like to spare no effort to convey things as simply and clearly as possible.
However, even so, there are many times when it is not conveyed (^^;
Especially when you are caught up only in logic and phenomena, isn't that the most difficult thing?
There are times when arguments happen over who said what (^^;
Even if there is evidence, it does not mean the argument will settle.
Because the true meaning is hidden behind the words that are spoken.
I won't be satisfied until I can read into that.
What was said.
How they acted.
There are things that cannot be heard through the phenomena of words and actions alone.
There are things that are not visible, aren't there?
For example, there must be many cases where those words and actions have no special meaning at all.
Even if you assign meaning to those words and actions on your own without confirming with the other person, nothing will be solved.
I think it is important to look back and ask if the communication was like playing catch with a curtain.
Also, there are people who immediately ask "Why?" when there is something they don't understand.
There are people who immediately say, "I don't understand."
Before making others put in the effort to explain or giving up on the effort to understand, it is important to listen to the unspoken voice, isn't it? (^^)
This refers to the Zen phrase "the sound of one hand clapping."
The sound of one hand is a Zen koan created by the Edo period Zen master Hakuin, and when we clap our left and right hands together, it makes a sound.
That is the sound of two hands.
Then what about one hand?
It is a problem that asks you to go and hear the sound of one hand.
In the novel "Water Margin," it says, "A single thread does not make a line, and one hand does not make a sound."
It is said that threads become stronger only when two are twisted together.
It means that a sound is produced only when both hands are together.
It is said that one side alone is useless.
Actually, perhaps the intention is to argue that things without value are superior, based on the idea that this very fact is what makes them wonderful.
It might be a problem created with inspiration from that perspective.
The world of relativity, represented by the right hand and the left hand.
We call them relative and absolute.
We live in a world of relativity.
It is a world where pairs are made into relationships.
We must look from that world toward a world where pairs are transcended.
The absolute world is a world where pairs are transcended, you see (^^)
However, in the world of relativity, we cannot understand each other unless we divide things into two, so we become slaves to language and grammar.
Even though the original world cannot be divided.
Therefore, by trying to understand that this Zen saying is telling us to enter the world of one hand from the world of both left and right hands, the world we see begins to change.
In other words, once you truly understand the world of one hand, you can see the true form of the actual relative world.
When you clap your left and right hands together, a sound is made.
This is the real world.
The sound before the sound is made exists within one hand.
Only by hearing this inaudible sound can you understand the sound that is heard.
In reality, it is easier said than done, though (^^;
However, there are countless ways to listen.
For example, I think this tanka poem can also serve as a reference when listening to the aforementioned inaudible sound.
"Us/us/us/us/us/us/I" Ai Imahashi, "Tanka WAVE" inaugural issue (2002) (*line breaks indicated by /)
The message of the words is clear.
It asks the question of what "I" am.
Without explaining this and that.
It shows this through the contrast between "us" and "I".
The meaning is not difficult.
Like the lyrics of this song, it feels like light verse.
Aimer "Butterfly Knot"
What we are taught by the aforementioned tanka and song.
There are two people who met out of countless others.
Isn't it the case that not only lovers, but also friends, work colleagues, school mentors, and even family are "partners" we have met through a layering of many coincidences and inevitabilities?
Like the lyrics of this song, expressions such as "pulled together" and "tied" suggest that human encounters are not passive, but active.
You choose the people around you.
And if you think that you were chosen by the other person, I believe you will feel more affection for your daily human relationships.
Please create a comfortable size for the butterfly knot relationship that the two of you made together on the count of three, and cherish it (^^)
Whether there is a strong will in every relationship that "you choose the thread of fate yourself."
I think it's fine to start from there, you know (^^)
To that end, listen to the voiceless voices of yourself and others.
That is.
Not by keeping your distance.
It is not about closing your eyes.
Nor is it about becoming overly involved.
It is neither standing by as a bystander nor being completely immersed.
It is not about shutting yourself away in your own thoughts either.
Nor is it about completely opening up your way of being.
With a light sense of agency.
Complex and fragile.
It would be wonderful if we could build precious human relationships despite that (^^)
To that end, as well.
Prepare your body.
Prepare your breathing.
Prepare your mind.
I repeat, please try to listen to those voiceless voices (^^)
★STAR GUiTAR "Live feat. Hidetake Takayama"
You must accept yourself and others if you really want to live.
[Bonus]
One of the essential elements for maintaining a relationship with someone without any ulterior motives is "understanding," and what we cultivate between people is a very troublesome issue, isn't it ^^;
Regarding this "understanding," Akiko Ikeda once said something like this.
It hits very close to home ^^;
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By the way, what is this will to "understand"?
It goes without saying, it is kindness.
The imaginative effort to understand what is unknown, to understand others who are not oneself—this is nothing other than love.
Those without love cannot understand; it is impossible for someone without love to understand anything beyond what they already know.
How could someone who has no intention of understanding possibly understand?
How could you have the intention to understand something you do not love?
I hated the illogicality and dishonesty of the lines people draw themselves, saying things like 'you can't understand until you're older' or 'you don't understand anything at all.'
So, what do you want me to do?
Well then, try having everyone in the world tell each other, 'You are not me, so I cannot understand you.'
The power to understand is love.
People often fail to realize that true intelligence is the power to love.
If you could measure others and the world with your own 'ruler,' there would be far fewer things in this world that you don't understand.
Thinking you understand is proof that you do not.
A 'knowledge of ignorance,' or half-baked knowledge, is a product of vanity and can become a blade that hurts others.
The humility to admit that you do not know what you do not know, the effort to try to understand what you do not know—this 'knowledge of ignorance' is the starting point of learning and the origin of kindness.
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