Everyone Has Their Own Role

I often think that everyone has something they are meant to do, or perhaps something they should do, a role, or even a kind of mission.

Otherwise, one would constantly envy others and never stop worrying about comparing oneself to them.

At such times, I am reminded of these words by the poet Emily Dickinson.

"The Flower must not blame the Bee - / Nor Sympathize with Butterfly - / Theirs is an errand of the Eye - / And mine - of the Heart -" (Note: The provided Japanese text is a specific interpretation of her work, so I have translated the Japanese text directly: "A flower blooming is a result. Nevertheless, those who happen to view the flower in passing rarely think about the role that the minute parts played in the blooming.")

For example, thinking things like: everyone around me is married and has children, yet there is no sign of that for me, and even though I want to live that kind of ordinary life, and it shouldn't be that difficult since so many people are doing it, why can't I do it?

Of course, there isn't just one answer, and it's hard to say what the 'correct' answer is, but one thing I can say is that since it isn't happening right now, there must be something behind it.

Perhaps there is something that needs to be done before that, or perhaps you are meant to realize something that is not what is called an 'ordinary life' (regardless of what one defines as ordinary).

Whether you believe in fate or not, or whether it can be changed or not, is a personal choice, but there are many things in life where you can look back and think, 'So that's what it was,' like a reveal, so something might be moving behind the scenes somewhere.

Yes, if you don't keep doing the steady, inconspicuous work, you won't get sustainable results, and you have to recognize that it takes a certain amount of time and process to produce results, you know ^^;

If you only focus on the flashy and conspicuous parts, it will end as a temporary thing with no reproducibility.

It's the same with careers.

You might think, 'That person's career is great,' and try to work hard to become like them, but there are times when you just can't become that way.

It's a bit troublesome because the answer to whether it's a lack of effort or just fate is sometimes subtle and unclear.

But when you struggle and struggle and it still doesn't happen, you also can't ignore the possibility that it's a message telling you to relax or to look in a different direction.

If you know what your role is, it helps you decide which direction to go, so it's quite helpful.

Besides, you can also be convinced of your daily efforts.

In other words, if your goals and your perspective are aligned and unwavering, your direction won't waver, so while you may have doubts or suffer, you will always keep moving forward.

As long as that part is solid, if you just focus on giving it your all, you can stay focused, making it harder to get distracted and reducing the entry of impure thoughts.

After all, there are many temptations in the world.

However, when it comes to the big theme of what one's role is, we don't usually think about it, so there are many things we don't really understand.

Everyone has a role, and if you know what your role is, you will feel less need to compare yourself to others, and it becomes easier to maintain your own pace and feel that you are who you are.

Fulfilling your role and being satisfied with it also leads to a sense of fulfillment.

How about you?

What do you think your role is?

Jane Goodall, the primatologist, once said, 'Every individual matters. Every individual has a role to play. Every individual makes a difference.' (^^)

Even if it is not something big, if you do what you can reliably, it will eventually become something significant, so you should think about what you can do now and start executing, even if it is just a small thing.

Since a small step leads to a big change, figuring out the shortcut to knowing your role can sometimes be complicated because it is not always simple.

Sometimes you are aware of it from a young age, and sometimes those around you notice it right away.

For some people, it might take a long, winding path before they finally encounter it.

However, I think it is best to start with things you are naturally drawn to, things that spark your interest and curiosity, things you enjoy, and things you are good at.

A major key to life is not to make things more difficult than they are by your own perspective and way of thinking about what you have and your current situation.

For example, if you think about things in a difficult way, they become difficult, and if you are pessimistic, the situation will worsen.

It is better to be as simple as possible and maintain a positive attitude, such as by counting the things that are fun or make you happy.

The same applies to becoming aware of your role.

If you don't know it, don't overthink it or make it complicated; it seems best to just start with what you can do and trust that you will understand it eventually.