Wrestling with Oneself
Every day, as many different things happen as there are people.
There is no such thing as the same day.
Not even for a single moment.
I think the true charm of life lies in being able to observe what happens to you and ponder it deeply.
Because when you only think about yourself,
you start to feel like other people are spending their days having the same thoughts and experiencing the same events.
You think that happy people must be happy all the time.
That foolish people must always be acting like fools.
That unpleasant people must always be acting mean.
But that is not the case, is it?
Without even needing to think about it.
For example, even an unpleasant person who is acting hateful right in front of you—even if you were to assume, 'I feel so sorry for anyone who has to work with a guy like that'—
they might be smiling and living with a calm heart in front of other people.
If you become satisfied not only with judging your own life but also with judging the lives of others, surely nothing will happen in your life anymore, right?
Or rather than nothing happening, I suppose you just wouldn't notice it.
Yes, when you are alive, all sorts of things happen, don't they?
Things you thought were good might turn bad.
There is more than enough time for things you thought were bad to turn good.
I have come to think that much of life is actually like 'dripping water hollows out stone'.
If a single drop of rain falls on a stone from various vectors, it cannot bore a hole in the stone.
It is only by focusing on the same vector that power can be exerted.
Sometimes we get swayed by the opinions of those around us and lose sight of the direction we were originally meant to head in (^^;
It teaches us that it is important to stay calm and focus on what we ourselves need to do.
If that's the case, don't just divide things by likes and dislikes; embrace what you can carry.
Try it out.
Experience setbacks.
And then, after a while, try it again.
I think that exploring the merits of various things at such a slow pace is the real thrill of what we call life (^^)
For example, whether or not you can understand that way of life depends on whether you can look at a stone with a depression made by rain and be moved by the power of nature.
When people are moved, their hearts become enriched, and when their hearts are enriched, they gain peace of mind.
People with rich hearts are also able to look at things calmly.
When we lack peace of mind, we tend to use words like the following in our thoughts and conversations.
"Busy," "tired," "hate it," "it's tough," "it's difficult," "I can't," "I don't want to do it," "I can't take it anymore," "it's no good," "I'm unhappy," "anyway," "I don't care," etc.
They all have a negative image, don't they (^^;
Conversely, when you have peace of mind, the words you use also change.
If we reflect on our days little by little, even for small things, and continue patiently, experiences that lead to tomorrow will dwell within us, and that will become the food for our growth, so I want to cherish that.
To that end, I think it would be even better if we didn't seek results immediately, but instead kept in mind the fulfillment of the process and made that a habit.
In that case, if there were an ultimate secret to forming a habit, I suspect there is a common factor that would allow 80 to 90 percent of people to succeed in forming a habit.
I think that factor is that the habit is not just for oneself (wrestling with oneself), but is being done for the sake of someone important.
Essentially, people tend to be lazy when it's just for themselves (^^;
You cannot be lazy for the sake of someone important to you.
Let's do our best for that person.
Let's work hard because it will make that person happy.
I think that if you can find things like that, you will likely succeed in making most things a habit.
Let's do something for someone important.
Not for yourself.
And it would be great if you could do that naturally, wouldn't it? (^^)
I think you could say that we are alive precisely because there are so many things like that.
Don't you think so?
Let's do our best again today (^^)
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If you can spark curiosity, people will work hard with enthusiasm
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https://logmi.jp/business/articles/327018