The Meaning of Sorrow

Illustration: Dadu Shin

Perhaps everyone lives with a hidden sorrow in their heart that they cannot tell others, that remains unspoken, and that cannot be expressed in words.

Just by learning about characters like these, one realizes that everyone carries such sorrow.

If we understand that, we should be able to be considerate of one another.

In Tomihiro Hoshino's collection of flower poems and paintings, "Smaller Than a Flower," there is the following poem.

"Smaller Than a Flower: A Collection of Flower Poems and Paintings" by Tomihiro Hoshino

"There is winter and there is summer

There is day and night

There are sunny days and

rainy days, and

just as a single flower blooms,

there is sorrow and

there is suffering, too,

and I become who I am."

I feel that the meaning of sorrow is also a heart that urges us to make a diligent effort so that we never have to experience such sorrow again.

When you think of it this way, the emotion of sorrow also has a positive meaning, and sorrow is something that must be overcome.

The feeling of happiness changes depending on the era and the person.

Don't you think that sorrow, suffering, and everything else are gifts from God, cleverly arranged for us to find happiness and to become our true selves?

If only I could become as kind as the number of my sorrows...

If only I could become as strong as the number of my sufferings...

Because of that, even if you take many detours, I believe everything has meaning and nothing is ever wasted.

After all, if you change your perspective even a little, you can see that society is built upon the countless jobs of others, and I believe that in every job, there is both the joy you receive and the joy you give to others.

And history has taught us in many ways that people have more energy to act when they want to make someone else happy than when they are acting for themselves, and that they will work hard without giving up, and in some situations, even sacrifice their own lives.

The fact that even when you are forced to do something you are not enthusiastic about, making the effort improves your abilities and skills, leads to greater results, and allows you to bring joy to more people.

And I believe that we should fundamentally teach young people before they enter society that this joy (happiness/shiawase) is something obtained in exchange for effort and time, as an important moral value.

The character 'shi' (仕) means to serve a noble person, and it refers to people 'serving each other' or 'doing for each other' to share in mutual joy.

Perhaps the people of ancient Japan knew that this is what 'happiness' (shiawase) truly is.

Almost everything you try for the first time begins with a mismatch.

If you want to obtain happiness, you have no choice but to adapt yourself to the object, and the 'thing' you feel when you are able to adapt yourself is what we call 'shiawase' (happiness/fitting together) (^^♪

Yes, if you are only concerned with your own axis, aren't you just deceiving yourself by labeling everything that falls outside of it as a 'mismatch'?

While it is important to have an unchanging axis, if you have more axes that can change, you can realize that there is no need to be extremely afraid when you stumble or things don't go as planned.

Currently, 'career education' is being conducted in companies and schools, but I am deeply concerned that the focus is on things like 'fostering such-and-such' and the promotion of elective curricula, while the perspective of adapting oneself is missing.

Effort will always be rewarded!

......Will it?

My own answer to this question is that since effort is not always rewarded, it is about how many times you repeat efforts that might not be rewarded, even if you think it might be in vain.

By doing that, the possibility that your efforts will be rewarded increases.

It might sound irresponsible, but in terms of career development, having the sense to try various things even if you think it might be in vain is a way to make coincidence your ally.

I think it makes life easier to live, and surprisingly, easier to live vividly as well (^^♪

As Ivankov says, 'Miracles only descend upon those who never give up!! Don't you dare underestimate miracles!!'.

Yes, 'Don't you dare underestimate miracles!!' indeed (^^;

That effort.

If you apply it to English, I wonder if it means you can change from "Lucky" to "Happy"?

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If you can become a person who can accept things little by little in this way, surely, one day, the days of sadness and the days of suffering will become days you can look back on with affection.

Yes, happiness is a matter of personal values, isn't it (^^)

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