[Memo] Exploring the true nature of anxiety
There are times when we do not do what we are capable of doing, or do not do what we should be doing.
While this is, of course, a form of self-sabotage, one of the contributing factors is anxiety or fear.
Also, there is sometimes pressure.
Pressure, in the end, is of the same nature as anxiety and fear.
Being afraid and nervous about something is not something we want to do if we can help it, is it?
Do you think you are currently afraid of something?
If so, what is it that you are afraid of?
There is also a vague sense of anxiety, but you cannot do anything about it as it is.
If you thoroughly explore the true nature of your anxiety, you may discover that it is an imaginary thing that does not actually exist, or if you understand it properly, you can take measures to deal with it.
If you feel that you are not acting or moving right now, it would be a good idea to try and explore the true nature of your anxiety.
There are many types of anxiety, but the fear of being rejected is very significant, and because of this, many people compromise themselves.
In other words, the fear that they might be disliked, not recognized, or not accepted.
When you focus on what others might do to you, you become unable to do what you truly want to do.
Most people should be able to relate to this.
Even if your opinion is different from everyone else's, you might stay silent because it is safer to go along with them, or even if you want to refuse, you might become unable to do so because you are anxious about what they will think of you afterward.
If you do not suffer at all from that, it is fine, but if these feelings accumulate, nothing good will come of it.
Eventually, you may even start to feel resentment toward the things you chose to do, wondering, 'Why am I the only one who has to go through this?'
Being disliked is certainly not a pleasant feeling, but sometimes, surprisingly, you are the only one who thinks that way.
If you are worried that you will not be recognized or accepted, it might be a good idea to try talking to the other person.
If you try talking to them, it is possible that you might find it was just your own assumption all along.
In any case, you cannot know the truth just by guessing how the other person feels on your own.
Also, if you have been sacrificing yourself for that reason, and you ask yourself honestly once more if that is really okay, the answer might turn out to be different.
[Today's Tanka]
"A gondola travels over the green valley; the origins of joy and anxiety are the same."
(From Satoshi Goto's 'Green Shrine')
"Passing a bottle of water left open, the water scatters like a letter."
(From Shun Omi's 'Scatter, Waters')
"Anxiety that is everywhere, I write it with a pen, the letters distorting in blue-black."
(From Tazuko Kugata's 'Sparrow's Curtain')
"Thinking that Marcus Aurelius also lived this life, which resembles words written on water."
(From Akari Sagisawa's 'Rhapsody and Serenade')
"A heart that grows anxious from confessing love too much, the swaying of many bush cherry fruits."
(From Matsuo Watanabe's 'Zelkova Boy')
"You don't have to talk about it until the end; your worries are soaked into the curtains."
(From Masako Nomura's 'Good Morning of the Night')
"I stop at every service area to recharge the time I have lost."
(From Sasara Kura's 'Bird on the Edge of a Dream')
[Reference Books]
'Mu (The Ultimate State)' by Yu Suzuki
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1. Decline in emotional control ability
2. Self-critical thinking
3. Habitual worrying
4. Negative body image
'The Extended Mind: The Power of Thinking Outside the Brain' (English Edition) by Annie Murphy Paul
'Stand Firm: Resisting the Self-Improvement Craze' by Svend Brinkmann (Translated by Yoichi Tamura)
<Reference Article>
Bright-Sided: How Positive Thinking Is Undermining America by Barbara Ehrenreich, translated by Yuka Nakajima
Don't Believe Everything You Think by Joseph Nguyen, translated by Mariko Yajima
Anxious Attachment Style: People Controlled by Others' Reactions (Kobunsha Shinsho) by Takashi Okada
Philosophy in the Smartphone Age: An Adventure into Lost Solitude by Yoshihiro Tanigawa
Jacques Lacan: Anxiety (Vol. 1) by Jacques-Alain Miller, translated by Hiroyuki Koide, Kunifumi Suzuki, Seiichi Sugawara, and Tadaaki Furuhashi
Jacques Lacan: Anxiety (Vol. 2) by Jacques-Alain Miller, translated by Hiroyuki Koide, Kunifumi Suzuki, Seiichi Sugawara, and Tadaaki Furuhashi
Extreme Thought: Lacan - Psychoanalytic Theory of the Subject (Kodansha Sensho Metier) by Kosuke Taki, edited by Masachi Osawa and Sumihiko Kumano
Extreme Thought: Sartre - To Acquire the Whole World (Kodansha Sensho Metier) by Sumihiko Kumano, edited by Masachi Osawa and Sumihiko Kumano
Extreme Thought: Nietzsche - Philosophy of Moral Critique (Kodansha Sensho Metier) by Jun Kido, edited by Masachi Osawa and Sumihiko Kumano
Extreme Thought: Heidegger - Living as Being-in-the-World (Kodansha Sensho Metier) by Yutori Takai, edited by Masachi Osawa and Sumihiko Kumano
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