When Feelings of Inferiority Strike

Are there people around you whom you can't help but think are lucky or blessed?

Not just lucky, but also people you think are capable.

Well, there is no one who possesses absolutely no luck or ability, but the grass always looks greener on the other side, and we tend to think others are luckier or more capable than ourselves.

It's unpleasant to harbor feelings of inferiority, thinking, 'Compared to me...'

I don't like that I'm comparing myself, and I don't like that it makes me feel like a lesser being.

Yes, exactly. It's not just inferiority; thinking that you are luckier than someone else or better than them is also not good.

Superiority might feel good temporarily, but comparing yourself to others is just ego satisfaction, and seeing yourself basking in superiority by comparing yourself to others makes you look rather dull.

We live in a society where comparing is a habit, so being compared by others is something we cannot control.

That said, to at least stop comparing yourself to others and to be liberated from this inferiority, what should you think and what patterns of behavior should you adopt?

The first step is to ask yourself what exactly you are trying to gain by comparing yourself to others.

Since you are comparing, it must be serving some purpose.

That purpose might be in your subconscious, something you are not yet aware of.

If you feel down because you compare, there is a reason somewhere why you want to feel down (or why you think you should feel down).

For example, you might believe somewhere deep down that 'I am a worthless person.'

If so, by comparing, there is always someone above you, which proves that you have no value.

We always have thoughts and behaviors that try to prove that what we believe is correct.

Thinking that you are insignificant might come from humility, but it is surprisingly deep-rooted.

It is the thought, 'I am not good enough.'

If you think 'I am not good enough' yourself, even if those around you kindly tell you 'you are good enough,' you will not be able to accept it honestly.

What a waste.

I believe that the idea of "I am not good enough" is a lie.

Of course, it may be true that you lack certain skills or knowledge, or that you are missing something at this current stage.

But that is a matter of "I just don't have enough skills yet," which is different from "I am not good enough."

The root of inferiority lies in those feelings or thoughts about yourself that exist somewhere in your heart, telling you "I am not good enough."

It is not that you end up thinking this way because of someone or something else; it is because you think so yourself, which is why it becomes so difficult to break free from that mindset.

When you are struck by feelings of inferiority, tell yourself, "I am good enough," that you are okay. Try thinking it repeatedly.

As you repeat it over and over, it will become your own core.

Once this core is established, you should be able to feel how it helps you in various aspects of your life.