The Existence of a Mother

⚫︎ A Resonant Relationship
My parents consisted of a so-called traditional Japanese man and a reserved mother, and I never even saw them fight.

However, for some reason, I remember scenes where my mother would suppress her emotions, and I think that has greatly influenced my own perception of what a married couple is like.

Perhaps due to my own low self-esteem, my married life followed the exact same path.

Looking back now, I think I probably didn't smile very much.

Because I was living as the "version of me that deals with a verbally abusive husband," I had forgotten the very existence of the doors to my overflowing energy and unbridled cheerfulness.

There are several things that changed significantly after my divorce, but I think the biggest change was that my eldest son was reborn.

Until then, my eldest son had a quiet voice, was always watching the adults' reactions, and rarely spoke to me.

That is why I thought of him as a "quiet child."

Now, he is always laughing,
and he lives so freely that I almost want to tell him, "Maybe try watching people's reactions a little bit..."
He has started talking to me often.

I used to call this change "liberation from a verbally abusive husband" (positioning it as a full-blown independence movement, haha), but then one day,
I thought, "Oh, no. That's not it!"

It's because I started to smile.

Because I was living in fear, adjusting to others, and suppressing myself, my eldest son was resonating with that and becoming the same way.

By reclaiming myself and starting to live, my eldest son also began to show his "true self" in the same way.

Wow... the existence of a mother is amazing✨
I was surprised.

⚫︎ The Existence of the Sun

Once I realized that and looked back at my daily life, I saw things in a new light.

If a mother is smiling, the child smiles too.
If a mother is steady, the child feels secure.
If a mother is comfortable, the child spreads their branches and lives well.

Considering that we spent ten months together and shared the milestone of childbirth, it makes sense that we would become beings who resonate with each other.

This is not to recommend divorce to mothers who are struggling with their partnerships, but simply to say that

a mother is like the sun.
Women have large vessels to receive things, so they tend to unconsciously carry various burdens, but having a large vessel also means having a large capacity.

You have the wonderful ability to change your perspective and turn things into learning,

change your angle and turn things into opportunities,
and flexibly manage things in a way that is, in a sense, carefree (where 'carefree' here means 'good').

A mother is the sun,



an absolute light(warmth, a source of vitality, smiles, etc.),but it also means



that there are sunny days, rainy days, and cloudy days, and because plants grow through the entirety of that, it also means living as you are.

To you, the mother,
you are the sun☀️

Therefore, I believe that if fathers also exist as the sky where the sun rises, if you both look at the contrast of the sky's appearance together, and if you focus on what makes women happy, the result will be that the entire family becomes warm and colorful.

Having the sun in your home is an amazing thing, isn't it?🤭💕