☁️ To those of you who get frustrated by 'people who are always nitpicking'

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🥲 I got told this and that again... and I just can't help but feel frustrated

Isn't there someone who always complains about every little thing?
If it were just one piece of advice, that would be one thing, but when they keep saying 'this is wrong' and 'that's not right' one after another,
you naturally start to get frustrated, don't you?

Of course, giving feedback for improvement is important.
But when it turns into 'nitpicking,' the person being told just ends up feeling exhausted.

I, too, was once troubled by someone who would 'only point out flaws' at a previous workplace.
In front of that person, I felt like everything I did was subject to being picked apart,
and gradually, I started to feel like nothing I did was ever right.

So, why do those kinds of people always nitpick so much?
Today, I'd like to share the truth behind that and a way of thinking that might make your heart feel a little lighter.

🧠 Type 1: People who are deeply anxious and can only express it through attacks

Among those who nitpick, there are actually 'people with high anxiety.'
Those who aren't good at expressing their anxiety directly end up letting it out as an 'attack.'

'Why can't you even do this?' 'Are you even paying attention?'

The more someone uses language like that,
the more they often harbor an inner fear that 'if I don't do things perfectly, I'll be blamed.'

Among the people I've seen, there was someone in a high-pressure position who was always on edge.
With a mindset like 'a mistake in work = I will be blamed,' they would end up forcing that tension onto those around them.

🧍‍♂️ Type 2: People who want to show their value 'relatively'

Another common type is 'people who can only feel their own value by comparing themselves to others.'

Deep down, they want to say 'I can do this' or 'I want to be appreciated for this part.'
But when they can't communicate that well or lack confidence, they instead try to prove they are superior by 'finding flaws in others to bring them down'.

Of course, the person themselves is often unconscious of this, but the damage it causes to those around them is quite significant.
As a result, it erodes the self-esteem of the people around them and makes the atmosphere heavy.

🧠 Try thinking, 'Whose problem is that?'

When you are being nitpicked,
'Maybe it's my fault'
'Well, I did make a mistake...' you might want to blame yourself.

But conversely, you might also want to push all the responsibility back, thinking, 'Why are you saying it like that? You're the one in the wrong.'

At times like this, what you don't want to forget is 'thinking about tasks separately'.

It's true that there might have been more you could have done.
But that, and the fact that they are 'choosing to communicate by nitpicking,' is the other person's problem.

We don't need to carry everything on our shoulders, nor do we need to force ourselves to change others.

'Nitpicking is that person's problem.'
'Focusing on what I can do is my problem.'

When you can properly separate these two things,
you can break free from the exhaustion of constantly worrying about whose fault it is or feeling like it's always your own fault.

Then, face your own tasks head-on and build upon what you can do.
By doing so, you will be able to focus more on 'whether I am a little better than I was yesterday' rather than how others see you.

🌱 Conclusion

Living in constant fear every day, thinking 'they might say something again,' is truly exhausting.
But you don't need to be swayed by everything that person says.

The reason they nitpick might be due to their own anxiety or desire for approval.
Once you understand that and separate it from your own tasks, your heart will feel a little lighter.

And focus on your own tasks.
' What am I capable of, and where can I improve? '
Once you can direct your energy here, you will gradually be less affected by those around you.

It's okay not to take everything in.
To protect your precious time and heart, please try to be conscious of separating tasks.

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