I know it in my head, but...
There is no need to spend time on people you dislike or people who do unpleasant things to you.
As the title says, I understand that in my head.
I am the type of person who tends to bring home the emotions I felt at work.
I don't mean to brag, but I think I'm a serious person.
It's hard to live as a serious person
It's actually very difficult to live as a serious person, and I feel like people who are good at switching gears enjoy life more.
When you're a child, being serious is praised.
Even as an adult, you get a certain amount of praise.
But the praise you get as an adult is simply because you're easy to handle or convenient for the company.
Because you're serious, you arrive on time, you do your work to a certain quality, and you don't rebel even when you're angry.
This is what idiots think about you, the serious person
In contrast to this, idiots have this outrageous idea that
【because you're convenient, they can do whatever they want to you】.
When I was a new graduate, I spent every day being hit and lectured by a power-harassing boss.
I snapped just once, and the boss was quiet for a few days.
But you see, people like this don't think,
Snapped at -> I must be in the wrong, but rather,
Snapped at -> What is wrong with that guy! is their line of thinking.
That's why they only stay quiet for a few days.
And if you, the serious one, suddenly snap, they will skillfully manipulate those around you to get you to quit.
Isn't there no way to deal with this?
I'm sure you're thinking, "There's no way to deal with this!"
When it comes to the workplace, there is a way.
That is, changing jobs! Just kidding lol
It's to skillfully solidify your surroundings.
The people around you and that boss are usually just going along with the unreasonable boss, and often dislike them in their hearts.
That is why, when you talk to the people around you, instead of badmouthing the boss,try praising them.
Something like, "I know, but isn't [Name] amazing?"
Then, even if the boss is badmouthing you to others, those people will report back to the boss, "[Name] was saying you're amazing."
People tend to believe information heard from a third party, so dare to praise them.
Like, "[Name] is so good at their job, I respect them!" or
"It's amazing how much you can do when you look at the surroundings!"
It's fine even if you don't mean it.
Just try to convey something, because when you strip away your feelings of dislike, that person does have some impressive qualities.
Just be careful about this one thing
There is one thing you must be careful about.
That is when people around you try to lead you into badmouthing them.
If you go along with it and badmouth them here,
you will take massive damage when you are betrayed.
That is why you should dare to praise them.
First, solidify your position.
Once your position is solid, you will gain credibility.
Once it is perceived that what you say is correct, you can go to the boss's superior under the guise of seeking advice.
Saying, "Actually, I'm having trouble with [Name]..."
I went way off track, so to get back to it...
Well, I got sidetracked while writing.
For you, the serious person who brings unpleasant things home,reducing the time you spend thinking about itis a realistic way to deal with it.
Immersing yourself in something or shouting out loudmight also be good.
Instead of just staring blankly at social media,
read a book.
Watch a movie.
Take a slow bath and breathe deeply.
There are all sorts of ways.
But you know, I still think about it
I know, but
I still think about it.
In that case, when an unpleasant scene pops into your head, try thinking about
what can I do to make that person feel a little more comfortable?And then,
try putting "making that person feel comfortable" into practice.The people around you are definitely watching your serious consideration.Strangely enough, when you do things to make a nasty person feel comfortable, things start to turn around for the better.
It's because you are serious and hardworking that you think about these things.
So, please praise yourself for being so kind.
It's okay, you are wonderful.