Playing the song of life with the instrument that is 'myself'

The true nature of 'calm'

Recently,
the time I can spend with a calm heart has increased.

But that is not because
nothing happens anymore.

It is not that I no longer get shaken.

I have just become able to return even after being shaken.

Customization (Self-understanding)

The first thing I needed was
'knowing my own characteristics'

・I have a strong influence
・I want to confirm my anxieties
・I have a habit of looking for reasons

etc.

These are not defects.
They are just 'characteristics'.

I do not deny these, but understand them.
Just like knowing the nature of an instrument.

Self-maintenance (The power to adjust)

・Rest when tired
・Bounce ideas off AI
・Write in a notebook when shaken
・Sleep soundly

Do not force a correct answer.
It is not broken.

It just needs maintenance.

Tuning (The power to return)

When I think, 'The sound is off,'

'Oh, it's off'

Stop there.

If his words sting a little,

'Ah, I reacted'

Stop there.

Do not create a story from that.
This is tuning.

Make fine adjustments to return to yourself.

On boundaries

There is one more thing
I want to cherish.
That is,

Being calm does not mean being defenseless

that.

For those who require caution,
draw a firm line.
But,
do not over-protect.

Place a flexible fence.
Even if it bends a little when pushed,
do not let them inside.

Boundaries.

The song of life

Life is not
about playing a perfect note continuously.

It is about swaying,
sometimes going off-key,
but then bringing it back into harmony.

Do not leave the performance to someone else,
play it yourself.

Conclusion

Self-integration does not seem to be about
becoming a 'finished product'.

To put it simply,
'becoming able to handle yourself'.

Becoming able to handle the instrument
that is yourself, by yourself.

Customizing it,
self-maintaining it,
and tuning it.

By doing so,
becoming able to live 'more easily' little by little.

Every time I waver,
I return to myself.

I will become my own tuner ^^

Aru.