My Daughter and I (Beyond the Rebellious Phase)

Hello.
My daughter has been on edge for about two and a half years, starting in her first year of junior high.
The quintessential teenage phase.
At first, I didn't realize it and searched for the cause as a mother.
Friends? Health? Worries?
When I tried to talk to her, her attitude was bad, and I would get hot-headed too.

One day, I consulted a 25-year-old woman at a hair salon.
She told me she had gone through a very intense rebellious phase.
Me: 'What am I doing wrong?'
Hairdresser: 'Everything. There is no reason. Just being called by my name would make me angry. Please just leave her alone. We get along fine now, though.'

I, who had been searching for a reason, was enlightened.
Ah, there is no reason! (What a relief.)
From then on, I decided not to speak to her until she spoke to me.
But I was worried, so I would still look at her.
Daughter: 'What? What are you looking at? (Angry)'
Ah, even looking at her face was off-limits.

I am the youngest of four siblings, and I always wanted my mother to watch and listen to me.
My daughter, the eldest of two, was fed up with a mother who was always watching and fussing over her. Yes, that made sense.

From then on, I stopped watching her and stopped calling out to her except for meals. I stopped worrying even if she didn't answer or was irritable.

Now, my daughter cuddles up to me and asks for a massage.
We talk about various things while having physical contact.
It is a great communication tool.
I am grateful for the massages.