[Self-Check for 'Old-Person' Behavior] Unconscious habits are the scariest 😱 Self-care in relationships starts with knowing yourself | Keep your brain flexible and protect your mental health | Are you really listening to others?

Hello.
I am Amami, your self-care advisor.

Recently, I've noticed more and more things that bother me, not just with the older generation, but with people my own age too!

What is it, you ask??

It's 'old-person' behavior (rogai) 💦💦

Which means, of course,
it's entirely possible that I'm doing it too, right!?

With that self-warning in mind, I've created a casual
Self-Check for 'Old-Person' Behaviorfor you.

I'm not that old!
Well, well, don't say that—just take it in good fun and give it a try, haha.

🪞 What is 'old-person' behavior!?

'Old-person' behavior is not just a matter of age.

It's like a 'habit of thought' where you unconsciously force your own methods and values onto those around you.And the scary part is that the person spreading this behavior

often thinks they are doing it for the best or acting out of their wealth of experience, so it's quite hard to notice.that point.

This time, I've created aself-checklist covering three areas: daily life, the workplace, and your mindset.Please check yourself with a wry smile 😊

☑️ Let's self-check your 'old-person' behavior level!

Feel free to check the items that apply to you.
And keep count of how many you checked on your fingers.
There will be a fun reveal of the results later!

✅ Workplace Edition

[ ] I sometimes start talking by saying, 'Back in my day' or 'When I was your age.'

[ ] When I see how young people do things, my first thought is 'Why?' (before even asking).

[ ] My stories about my own experiences tend to be longer than the advice I give to others.

[ ] I feel a certain resistance to the introduction of new tools or systems.

[ ] I find myself thinking, 'Did you check that with me?' more often.

[ ] I have an urge to bring up 'fundamental arguments' during meetings.

✅ Daily Life Edition

[ ] I find myself saying, "I can't keep up" with recent music, dramas, or trends.

[ ] I notice young people's language or clothing and feel the urge to point it out.

[ ] I have used the phrase, "Kids these days..."

[ ] I tend to think my way (of doing housework, childcare, saving money, etc.) is the "correct" way.

[ ] I often feel like people take things for granted rather than being grateful.

[ ] There are parts of me that think, "I don't need to understand" how to use smartphones or social media.

✅ Thinking & Attitude Section

[ ] I feel like changing my opinion is "being inconsistent."

[ ] I tend to interpret silence from others as "agreement."

[ ] I sometimes give advice even when it wasn't asked for.

[ ] I find myself saying, "This is just common sense," more often.

[ ] I sometimes worry that I might be becoming an "old-timer" (← This is healthy!)


🎊 Results!
0-3 items: Safe Zone🌿
Proof that you can see yourself objectively. Keep it up!

4-7 items: Observation Zone🌤
A few things are popping up. Just being aware of them makes a huge difference.

8-12 items: Caution Zone⚡
People around you might be kindly staying silent. Try to consciously "listen" more.

13+ items: Emergency Check Zone🚨
But it's okay.
Today, the day you realized it, is your update day!
More than the number you checked, the fact that you "realized it" is what matters most🌱

🏅 Regarding the results... the items you chose can sometimes have positive aspects

So, how did the check go?

Even if a few items applied to you, don't get discouraged!
People of any age who are passionate about their work might find that quite a few of these apply to them.

Depending on how you read them, some items actually have positive aspects, right?

Also, it is proof that you have something you want to share passionately, regardless of whether the other person is asking for it.

I am not saying that in itself is a bad thing.

🌿 Future Measures

Behaviors associated with being an "old-timer" are said to be "behavioral habits" rather than personality traits themselves.

Habits can be changed little by little by focusing your awareness on them. Here are some measures you can take starting today.

① First, focus on "listening"

Make it a habit to listen to the other person's story all the way through before giving advice. Just by "listening," relationships change significantly.

② Instead of "Why?💢," try "So that's another way to do it"

When you see a new way of doing things, try choosing words that show curiosity before jumping to criticism.

③ Take a breath before sharing your own experiences

Just thinking for a moment, "Is this what they want to hear?," makes a big difference.

④ Perform regular self-checks

Try looking back at this list even once a month. Whether the number of checked items changes will be a barometer of your own growth.

Rather than "not becoming an old-timer," I want to aim to be "someone who can keep learning no matter how old they get."

And I want to be someone who can learn from anyone, right? 🌱