[Marriage Hunting] The story of being dumped by a casual dating partner at a marriage agency on Christmas | How I recovered from it

I seriously hunted for a marriage partner from age 24 to 29 and met 143 people.
I registered my marriage at 31 to a man I met on a matching app.
I now have a 1-year-old child.

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This time, I will talk about the time I was dumped by a casual dating partner on Christmas while I was marriage hunting at a marriage agency at age 29.

Omiai (Matchmaking meeting)

My first meeting with Mr. K was an omiai at a hotel lounge.
Mr. K's specs were as follows.

・Age: 33
・Annual income: 8 million yen
・Finance industry
・Refreshing, handsome type

Mr. K gave a polite and serious impression.
The omiai ended on a fun note.

I sent a request for casual dating to the marriage agency.

The second date was at a yakitori restaurant on Christmas Eve

For our second date, we went to a yakitori restaurant on Christmas Eve.

We had a normal, fun conversation this time as well, and it ended.

However, after the date, when I invited him by saying,
👧"Let's go again!"
Mr. K had a somewhat subtle reaction.

I also sent a thank-you message to Mr. K on LINE, but I didn't get a reply...

Since I didn't hear from him even on Christmas, I was convinced that I had been dumped.

After the New Year, just as I had imagined, the marriage agency contacted me to say that they had received notice from Mr. K that our casual dating had ended.

Looking back on the casual dating

I hadn't looked back to see if I had made any rude remarks to Mr. K, but I probably hadn't done anything.

Possible reasons I can think of are:
・He didn't really like me in the first place, but I wasn't a failing grade either, so he proceeded to the second casual date
・He wanted to start serious dating with someone else
That's what I think.

This is just something that can't be helped.

My status at the marriage agency at this time

At the beginning of the year when I was 29, I received a notice from Mr. K that our casual dating had ended, leaving me with zero casual dating partners.

Before that, I had met over 15 people at this marriage agency, and there were even people I met five times but didn't progress to serious dating with.

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I think being rejected by Mr. K was unavoidable due to my own lack of ability.

However, my HP (health points) hit zero here. lol

・Maybe I just can't get married no matter what I do...
・I've been paying for a marriage agency since I was 24, and I'm still not married in my fifth year...

I was quite depressed.

Strategies for recovery

I no longer had the motivation to send out new applications and look for someone to date casually.

So, I decided to execute the following plan: ・Suspend my marriage agency membership, deciding on a period of just 3 months. During that time, participate in matching apps, marriage hunting parties, etc. ・That said, since I had no energy at the moment, I would do nothing related to marriage hunting for the first two weeks, such as taking a heartbreak trip.

As a result, I met and started dating my husband during this suspension period, so I went from suspending to withdrawing from the marriage agency. At this time, marriage hunting had become like a job. Having even a little time to step away from marriage hunting was a good refreshment.

During this refreshment period, I set a goal to give my all to marriage hunting until I was 32.

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This is because I thought it would be impossible to keep running at full speed.

The reason I decided to take only two weeks off from marriage hunting was because,
I thought it was better to replace the wounds of love with a new romance as soon as possible.

After all, dwelling on a casual dating partner forever is just a waste of time.

Summary

・Sometimes you get dumped in casual dating even without a specific reason. ・If you are too tired, taking a break is also an option.

In marriage hunting, it's not just you doing the choosing; the other person is choosing too.

If things don't work out despite your efforts, let's just give up cleanly.

If you are truly exhausted like I was, it is also an option to take a break from your membership.

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