The Law of Attraction Was a 'Way of Thinking' That Made Life Easier

—The story of how I wanted to change my life but didn't know where to start

I wanted to change my life.
That is what I thought.

But to be honest,
I didn't know how I wanted to change it.

It's not that I hate my current life.
It's just that,
somewhere deep down, it has always been painful.

I have worked hard.
I have done what I needed to do.
I have lived my life properly, in my own way.

And yet,
deep in my heart,
the same voice was always there.

"Is it really okay to stay like this?"

Many people who want to change their lives
don't actually want a "dramatic change."

・I want to live more easily
・I want a little more peace of mind
・I want to make every day less unpleasant than it is now

That is all.

But that "all"
was what I understood the least.

What should I change?
Where should I start?
To begin with, what do I want to do?

Nothing was clear.

That is why I
was not good with so-called "positive words."

"If you change your thinking, your life will change"
"If you wish for it, it will come true"
"Let's raise our vibrations"

Honestly,
they sounded like words from people who weren't living in reality.

If I had that kind of luxury,
I would have been at ease a long time ago.

With a life to lead,
with responsibilities,
in a life I couldn't easily throw away,
those words
felt somewhat distant.

Even so,
the pain did not disappear.

So,
I just kept holding onto the feeling of
"I want to live easily."

That was when I encountered
the Law of Attraction.

At first,
honestly, I was more than just skeptical.

'This is probably just a story about people who are already successful,'
'These are probably just words from people who aren't living in reality'

Thinking that,
I opened the book.

But,
my hand wouldn't stop turning the pages.

What was written there
was not a story of success,
nor a story of dreams coming true.

What was written
was the mechanism of how people
make their daily lives difficult.

'People
assume that the state they keep feeling
is "normal"'

When I read that sentence,
my chest felt a little uneasy.

What kind of state
had I been living in,
thinking it was "normal"?

Being busy is natural.
Having no breathing room is normal.
Enduring is what adults do.

Such feelings
had, without me knowing,
become my internal standard.

The Law of Attraction
was not a story about "wishing and it comes true."

"What kind of state do you take for granted?"
It was a way of thinking that re-examined that.

If that was the case,
I felt like I could understand it a little.

People whose lives are difficult
don't want to attract difficulty.

It's just that
they are too used to a difficult state,
and can no longer imagine anything else.

I
had always wanted to "be at ease."

But,
I had never once seriously imagined
a state of being at ease.

Being at ease means
being lazy.
Running away.
Becoming weak.

That is how I
was forbidding it somewhere.

Reading about the Law of Attraction,
I realized it for the first time.

I
had never allowed myself
to make things easier.

That is why
nothing changed.

It wasn't because I couldn't make something come true.
It was because I didn't have the premise that it was okay to be at ease.

The essence of the Law of Attraction
was right here.

Before changing your life,
give yourself permission
to 'make life easier'.

That is
neither spiritual
nor magic.

It was simply
a shift in perspective.

But that shift
was incredibly difficult.

Because
if I allowed myself to live easily,
I felt like all my hard work until now
had been for nothing.

It felt like I was denying
the self that had endured,
and it was scary.

Even so,
I had reached my limit.

So I
started from small things.

I didn't try to change my life.
I didn't try to succeed either.

I just
thought only about
making today a little easier.

Don't force yourself to continue things you dislike.
Rest when you are tired.
Truly feel the 'I don't want to do this'.

Just by doing that,
guilt welled up.

'Is it really okay to do this?'
'Shouldn't I be trying harder?'

But,
the Law of Attraction
started to work for the first time here.

The moment I told myself, "It's okay to take it easy,"
the tension in my heart eased a little.

That relaxation
made the next day
just a little bit easier.

That was all.

But,
it was a change that had never happened
in my life until then.

Since learning about the Law of Attraction,
my life hasn't suddenly changed.

My work hasn't become easier,
I haven't gained more money,
and the people I dislike haven't disappeared.

Reality was still reality.

Even so,
there is one thing that was definitely different.

That is,
"Every day was a little easier than before."
That is what it was.

Just that.
But it was more than enough of a change to start living my life over again.

People for whom the Law of Attraction doesn't work
usually stumble here.

"Reality doesn't change,"
"nothing happens,"
"in the end, it was meaningless."

Thinking that way,
they go back to their original way of thinking.

But I
had noticed something.

The cause of life's suffering
was not reality itself.

Rather than "what is happening" in reality,
how I am reacting
to it.

That,
was what made life overwhelmingly heavier.

Even if the same event occurs,
some days I can endure it.
Other days, it is unbearably painful.

The difference
is not the event.

It was the state of mind at that time.

The Law of Attraction was a way of thinking that treated this with care.

“Let's stay in a good mood.”
Looking at those words alone,
it might sound light.

But,
you will understand when you actually try it.

Being in a good mood is,
incredibly realistic,
and incredibly difficult.

Because,
we are unconsciously,
completely used to,
ways of thinking that make us suffer.

・I have to do things properly
・I have to endure
・I have to meet expectations

The more a person has lived that way,
the more they feel guilt,
about 'becoming at ease'.

I was like that too.

Just by resting a little,
a voice speaks in my head.

“Is that really okay?”
“Aren't you just running away?”

But, the result of following that voice,
just as it was,
was my life up until now.

That is why I,
did not 'believe' in,
the Law of Attraction.

Instead,
I decided to test it.

For one day today,
I will try not to blame myself.

If I feel bad,
I won't force myself to be positive.

“I see, that's how I'm feeling,”
I try saying in my heart.

That's all.

Then, a strange thing happened.

Unpleasant events still happen.
But,
the time I spend dwelling on them has shortened.

In the past,
a single failure
would have me feeling down all day.

Now,
I bounce back in a few hours.

A few hours
becomes a few minutes.

A few minutes
becomes 'Oh well, it's fine.'

This change,
from the outside,
is almost invisible.

But,
for the person living it,
it was as big as a change in the world.

Making life easier
doesn't mean problems disappear.

It means not being swallowed up by problems.

The Law of Attraction
isn't about manipulating reality.

It was about
creating a little bit of space inside yourself.

When that space is created,
you can see your options.

In situations where, until now,
the only option was to 'endure,'
'I'll keep my distance today'
is a choice that comes to mind.

In situations where, until now,
the only option was 'I have to do it,'
'I don't have to do it today'
is something I can think.

These small choices
have definitely made life easier.

And,
I realized one more big misunderstanding.

The Law of Attraction
is not about
'not having to try hard.'

It is about
'not having to try so hard that you break yourself.'

Trying hard itself isn't bad.
Ignoring yourself while trying hard
was what made life painful.

Therefore,
use your mood as a benchmark.

I have capacity today.
I don't have capacity today.

Do not ignore it.

Just by doing that,
attraction will start moving on its own.

Because,
when people start treating themselves with care,
naturally,
they make choices that lead to being treated with care.

You stop making unreasonable promises.
You distance yourself a little from unreasonable relationships.
You stop imposing unreasonable goals on yourself.

As a result,
reality 'looks easier'.

But this doesn't mean
reality has changed.

It just means that you
have become able to handle reality with ease.

The Law of Attraction is
not a way of thinking that creates miracles.

It was an instruction manual
for not making life
more difficult than it needs to be.

I,
just by encountering it,
was saved enough.

At some point,
I stopped using the phrase
'I want to change my life'.

The reason is simple:
even without changing it, it was easier than before.

The old me,
every time I thought about wanting to change my life,
felt painful somewhere.

I would deny my current self,
try to become someone else,
and desperately reach out for an ideal I hadn't yet seen.

But, since I started using the Law of Attraction
as a 'way of thinking',
I began to understand little by little.

When life is painful,
people are
constantly rejecting 'here and now'.

Even though I'm actually tired,
I tell myself, 'I should still be able to do more.'
Even though I actually hate it,
I silence myself by saying, 'It can't be helped.'

That accumulation
was what made life heavy.

The essence of the Law of Attraction
was to stop doing that.

Before trying to improve the future,
don't make an enemy of your current self.

That's all.

To change your life,
no special actions were necessary.

Wake up in the morning,
and ask yourself,
'How am I feeling today?'

If you're tired,
slow down a little.
If you have the energy,
move a little bit.

As I repeated that,
something strange happened.

Even though I stopped wanting to
'change' my life,
my life became calmer than before.

Problems still exist as always.
It's not that my worries have become zero.

But,
my life is no longer being stolen by problems.

The Law of Attraction
was not a tool for making wishes come true.

It was a way of thinking
to properly return life to your own hands.

It's okay to live easily.
It's okay to rest.
It's okay to be lost.

You don't have to try to get that permission
from others.

You just need to give it to yourself.

When you can do that,
life gradually changes its shape.

Forced relationships
naturally decrease.
What is truly important
quietly remains.

Even without trying to 'change' things,
things that don't fit drift away,
and things that do fit draw closer.

That was the change
that the Law of Attraction
causes in reality.

I think this way of thinking is perfect for people who aren't into spirituality.

Because,
it doesn't deny reality.

"I have to be positive."
"I have to be grateful."
Don't force yourself to do those things.

If it's a bad day, it's okay to feel bad.
If it's a painful day, it's okay to feel pain.

Just,
within those emotions,
don't beat yourself up.

Just by doing that,
the hardships of life
will decrease surprisingly.

If right now,
you

・Want to change your life but don't know where to start
・Are not a fan of spirituality
・But feel that things are tough as they are

If you feel that way.

You don't have to start anything.
You don't have to try to change.

First,
don't make today's version of yourself your enemy.
That's a good place to start.

The Law of Attraction is
not a "way to become your ideal self."

"It is a way to properly live alongside your current self.".

When you can make peace with your current self,
life will start moving forward on its own.

When you stop trying to change,
change happens.

When you give yourself permission to take it easy,
reality becomes a little kinder.

That is
everything about the Law of Attraction
that actually saved me.

I don't want you, having finished reading this text,
to make any resolutions.

Just,
"Maybe I'm okay just as I am right now."
If you could think that.

Just by that,
this text has more than enough meaning.

Life,
you don't have to change it.

It's okay to make it easier.

When you can remember that,
your life,
has already quietly begun to move.

* Please save this quietly for those nights when you feel like changing your life.

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