A Quiet Shift: Making Someone Else the Protagonist

Recently, when I have a conversation with someone, I have started to speak with the mindset that the other person is the protagonist.

As I have let go of various things, I have gradually come to acknowledge my own existence and face myself with respect.
As a result, I have come to cherish talking with people and the moments themselves so much that, before I knew it, I was genuinely enjoying our conversations.
I want to know more, I want to listen more, I want to learn—those feelings naturally overflow.

Now, if you were to ask if I wasn't interested in people before, that wouldn't be the case.
I was interested, I enjoyed spending time with friends, and our conversations were lively.
However, I don't think I had the same sense of "making the other person the protagonist" as I do now.

And now, just by listening to the other person's story, I feel very comfortable and relaxed.

Perhaps I no longer feel the need to constantly seek validation for myself.
First, I have become able to think that I want to know and understand the other person.
When I do that, the person in front of me starts talking about themselves, looking happier and happier.

Of course, I also share my own thoughts.
But more than that, I feel like I want to hear the other person's thoughts.

Before, I used to decide everything myself.
But now, I want to hear various opinions and try incorporating them.
If there is something I don't know, we can think about it together.
Let's try listening to other opinions.
It might still be too early to make a decision.

In that way, my heart has been changing little by little.

At the very moment I was feeling such changes,
I also encountered a wonderful note article about "listening."

"Nana-Zero Kaitai Shinsho" (Nana-Zero Anatomy Book).

Nana-Zero, who does a live stream every day from 12:00 for about 42 minutes.
I was once invited to collaborate with them,
and they are truly skilled at drawing out the other person's story; before I knew it, I found myself wanting to talk more and more.
It was a dialogue that felt so comfortable and made me open up naturally.

This book is a compilation of insights that Abe-yu, who always provides timestamps for those live streams,
gained while watching their dialogues and live streams for over a year.

This was truly a grateful piece of content.

It is packed with essences that can be applied not only in collaborative live situations,
but also in everyday interactions with people.

The writing is also very easy to understand and sinks right into the heart.
While reading, there were many moments where I thought, "Ah, that's why it felt so comfortable," and things clicked for me.

What I found even more wonderful is that it is designed so that you can fully understand the big picture by reading the "Kiwami no Sho" (Book of Mastery).
You don't have to search around for information; if you pick up this one book, you can reach the essence. It was a structure that felt very kind.

This anatomy book, which I encountered as if it were overlapping with my own changes,
made me feel like I was taught once again the depth of "listening."

Listening closely to these changes has become my daily routine recently.

"Nana-Zero Kaitai Shinsho"

~Chi no Sho (Book of Earth)~

~Book of Heaven~

~Book of the Ultimate~

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