The person who told me I didn't have to do the dishes while raising my child

I spent time with some relatives at my in-laws' house.

One of them said it so casually.

"It's hard looking after a small child, so you don't have to do the dishes."

It was just a few words, but for some reason, they stayed with me.

"Do you wake up in the middle of the night?"

"Are you getting enough sleep?"

They weren't just thinking about the child; they were looking out for me, too.

Oh, I thought, people like this are so kind.

It's not that they did anything particularly special.

They just truly saw what I was finding difficult at that moment.

If you have children, it's only natural to take care of them.

If you are at home, it's only natural to do the housework.

When you only look at roles like that, you stop seeing how exhausted that person really is.

But,

When someone says, "You're looking after a small child, so it's okay to rest now,"

it makes me feel,

"Oh, there is someone who sees how hard I'm working."

I can think that.

Raising children isn't something you do to be praised by others.

But, sometimes, like this,

Just being told, "It must be tough, right?"

makes my heart feel so much lighter.

I want to be the kind of person who can notice when others are struggling, just like that.

Not just noticing what someone is doing,

but what kind of situation they are in right now.

What they are carrying on their shoulders.

I want to be someone who can imagine even that much.

Kindness isn't just about doing something for someone.

It might just be about noticing,

"You're having a hard time right now, aren't you?"

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