Why I was able to return home unscathed after listening to my former boss complain about work for three hours.

Hello everyone, this is Haruty!

Today, I'd like to talk about this.
It's easier to just build the power to earn for yourself and cut ties quickly before you start complaining.

That's the topic for today.

Yesterday, I had a meeting for my main job, and I ended up being subjected to what felt like torture—listening to someone complain about work for a solid hour and a half, non-stop, haha.

The person was my former boss, A, who I used to work under.
She is one of the few female managers at our company.

Believe it or not, this was the second time since last week, haha.
Spending a total of three hours listening to complaints was quite a painful experience.

A's job is super intense.
At her worst, I've even seen emails from her come in at 3:00 AM.
(I'm not sure if she's an extreme early bird or if she's working until the middle of the night...)

A is in a position where she acts as a coordinator for many different departments.

Every time a policy changes, she has to coordinate with everyone involved, and every single day, complicated issues come flying her way.

Apparently, many of these "consultations" are like complaints from people who completely ignore how busy she is.

She would sigh deeply and mutter, "I really wish people would think about others' feelings for once—everyone is just so inconsiderate."

A originally came to her current department by volunteering for it, partly because she had grown sick of her previous department.

This is a rule at our company, but
if you raise your hand to transfer,
you can't go anywhere new
for another four years.

“Honestly, it’s tougher than my previous department.
Maybe I’ll just endure it for four years and then go somewhere else…”

After spending a total of three hours—an hour and a half over two days—listening to A’s complaints,
once I was released, I suddenly thought:

“Huh. I’m in the same company,
and we’re even talking about the same department,
yet I didn’t feel damaged at all.”
…That’s what I thought.

Complaints arise when you give up.

I think people complain when they feel they have no choice but to give up,
or when they feel like there’s nothing they can do.

If it were me just half a year ago,
A’s story wouldn’t have been someone else’s problem.

Thinking that there are so many complainers like this in my company
would have made me feel deeply disgusted,

and the fact that at nearly fifty (A’s age),
after going to the trouble of transferring to a different department to change their environment, they ended up in this situation
and have to endure “four more years.”

It would have felt like being shown what my own future would look like in 20 years,
and my heart would have felt truly heavy.

…But as for me now,
it’s completely someone else’s problem, and I’m unscathed.

If I had to force a complaint,
I’d just say I wish I had those three hours back so I could have written three Note articles. Haha.

Why?
Did my complaints about the company disappear entirely?

That is, after all,
“because I know how to escape from this environment.”
I think it comes down to that.

If you think this environment is unpleasant,
you should build the power to earn on your own without relying on the company,
and just cut ties with it.

Until now, I thought that was just a pipe dream.

Even so, for “just” half a year in a long life,
if you seriously polish your own ability to earn,
“Oh, I can quit this company whenever I want.”
I’ve become able to think that way.

The point is, I
don't have any intention of quitting my job "yet."
However, I was definitely able to
break free from being 100% dependent on the company.

There is always the option of changing jobs even if it means a pay cut,
and you don't have to feel like you need to be recognized at the company,
so you can afford to relax a bit more.

Isn't it painful
to spend your whole life
complaining about the place where you spend most of your time!?

I have the power to escape whenever I want.
I am keenly realizing how much being able to think that way
makes life easier.

P.S.

…On the other hand, while I acted all high and mighty about work,
saying I don't have any complaints,
when it comes to parenting, I'm full of "whining" lol

My 18-month-old daughter, who has entered her 'terrible twos' phase,
has finally stopped eating vegetables.
This morning, too, the moment she put the meal I had gone to the trouble of preparing
into her mouth, she spat it right out,

"PANPAN GWAIIIIIIIIIIII!!!!"
(Translation: Give me Anpanman bread)

So, lol

I realized I was complaining a lot about this situation.

"If it's that hard, I should hire a babysitter or
think of an easier way to do things."

Haruty reflected on this a little. lol

P.P.S

I'm completely at the mercy of parenting, but
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without depending on a company!?
I talk about it in this e-book＾＾

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