[Boost Your Child's Self-Esteem!] Parenting Techniques Based on Adlerian Psychology
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[Boost Your Child's Self-Esteem!] Parenting Techniques Based on Adlerian Psychology
Introduction
For a child to grow up healthy, it is important for them to have high self-esteem.
Self-esteem is the feeling of recognizing oneself as a valuable being and being able to love oneself.
Children with high self-esteem can face difficulties and strive toward their goals.
On the other hand, children with low self-esteem may lack confidence and, because they worry too much about the evaluation of others, may not be able to demonstrate their true potential.
So, how can we raise a child's self-esteem?
In this article, I will introduce parenting techniques based on Adlerian psychology that will skyrocket your child's self-esteem.
[Boost Your Child's Self-Esteem!] Effective Teachings of Adlerian Psychology
Adlerian psychology is a school of psychology proposed by Alfred Adler.
Adler provides many insights into human relationships and parenting, based on the idea that all humans are born equal and can freely choose their own lives.
Based on Adlerian psychology, here are three effective teachings for raising a child's self-esteem.
1. "Approval" and "Encouragement"
It is important to accept, love, and encourage your child just as they are.
By accepting not only their good points but also their bad points, and by acknowledging them as a valuable person just as they are, a child's self-esteem will increase.
2. "Separation of Tasks"
It is important to distinguish between the child's tasks and the adult's tasks, and to encourage the child to work on their own tasks.
If parents solve their child's problems for them, the child will not develop the ability to think for themselves.
On the other hand, when children work on their own tasks and overcome them, their confidence and self-esteem increase.
3. "Encouragement"
When a child faces a difficulty, it is important not to rescue them immediately, but to encourage them so they can think and act for themselves.
By encouraging them to take on challenges without fear of failure, children can develop the strength to overcome difficulties and increase their self-esteem.
The Meaning of the Teachings
These teachings are important for fostering the elements necessary for a child to recognize themselves as a valuable person and to live as the protagonist of their own life.
How to Apply These to Parenting and Concrete Examples
1. "Recognition" and "Encouragement"
When your child achieves something, even if it is small, praise them specifically.
Even if they fail, acknowledge their effort and offer words of encouragement.
When your child expresses their opinion, listen sincerely, even if they are wrong.
Hug your child every day and tell them, "I love you."
2. "Separation of Tasks"
When your child is struggling to do their homework, do not do it for them, but think of ways to do it together.
When your child has a fight with a friend, do not immediately intervene to solve it, but support them so they can resolve it themselves.
When your child fails, think about the cause together and discuss what to do next time.
3. "Encouragement"
When your child is trying to take on a new challenge, support them even if they seem anxious.
When they face difficulties, do not rescue them immediately, but believe that they can do it and encourage them.
Encourage them to try again without giving up, even if they fail.
Conclusion
To raise your child's self-esteem, it is important for parents to accept, love, and encourage their child just as they are.
Using the teachings of Adlerian psychology as a guide, let's support our children so they can believe in themselves and walk through life.
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