Cultivating 'High Performers' in Work and Study Through Three Habits. How to Raise 'Capable Children' and How to Interact with Them.

I will delve deeper into the article I wrote three days ago about'high performers'. This is about specific
'ways to raise' and 'ways to interact'.

How should parents interact with their children to raise them into 'people who excel at work and study'?This is a story aboutgrowth and parenting. At the same time, it is also applicable toraisingyoung subordinates.

Last time, I wrote about'high performers' in work and study, which is one of the conditions, specificallythinking. Especially regarding work, other important elements such aschallenge and trustare also important. I plan to organize those into an article soon as well.

But first, I will delve into the'thinking'part and step into how that ability can be cultivated.

I wrote in my previous article that people who excel at work and study have a different way ofthinking. What if there were spider webs in your shop? Would you remove them or not? Of course, you would remove them. But this is obvious. It was a normal thing to do.

People who excel at work don't let spider webs form in the first place. And they share this so everyone can do it at the same level, thinking about profits, cost-performance, and even further ahead.

In other words, people who
can only do what they are told. People who wait for instructions. People who freeze up when they fail and don't know what to do.

They are the

exact oppositeof such people, and theyreturn results beyond what they were told. They act by anticipating needs. Even if they fail, they solve it themselves and can even turn it into a big opportunity.

They have the

'thinking ability'

to do so. People who excel at work have cultivated the ability to judge and act on the spot.

However, that is rarely taught in school. In fact, it is often the case that the exact opposite is taught.

That is why how you interact at home becomes important.

Here are just three important points below.

First,
1. Do not give the answer even if asked. Think together.

'Hey Mom, what should I do about this?'
'I don't know the answer to this problem.'

The simpler the question, the more you want to give the correct answer immediately, right?

But, try to hold back and respond like this.

What do you think is the best thing to do?
What do you want to do?
How far have you thought about it? Where are you stuck?
When did you learn that?

This'questioning'gets the child's brain moving.

If you don't know, ask. Get the answer. A child who has'become accustomed only to receiving the correct answer'in that way will not be able to think about anything when the time comes.

Thinking ability will not be cultivated at all. But a child who has the habit of 'thinking' can correct themselves even if they make a mistake. They can change themselves.

What is important is not 'getting the right answer' but 'thinking'.

It is okay if the answer is not correct.

2. Parents should show a 'model of thinking'

For example, even in deciding what to have for dinner tonight, there should be some thinking involved.

Because I had this and that in the fridge. Because it was cheap at the supermarket. Because this was served at school lunch. There is a reason for deciding on it, right? If a child asks, 'Why is it curry tonight?', that is a chance. It is a waste to just say 'just because' or 'because I want to eat it'.

Try to put the reasons and the process into words.
By 'visualizing' adult thinking, the child realizes, 'Oh, they are thinking about things like this. Deciding on dinner is also hard work'.

Daily shopping, deciding where to go on holidays, buying home appliances, buying a car, or building a house. Such major events are also great opportunities. You can think about why things turned out this way together with your child, listen to their opinions, or incorporate them. There are many ways to do this.

Show your thinking while talking and teach them. Let them realize that there are other ways of thinking.

3. Discuss questions without answers at home

For example, right now:
'Why is summer vacation so long?'
'Why won't war disappear?'
'Why is it hot in summer?'
'Why...?'

Are you having these kinds of conversations at home?

It is not just studying with set answers, but time spent facing questions without correct answers thatgives 'depth' to a child's thinking.

And sometimes, if the conversation gets lively and there is a moment where they can feel,'Thinking is fun,'that is the best.

More than any teaching material or any class,the 'seeds for cultivating thinking skills' lie within simple parent-child conversations.

Ask your child, 'What do you think?'
The child expresses their own opinion.
There is no need for a correct answer, and they don't have to come up with the same answer as the parent. It is even better if it is unconventional, unexpected, or outside the box.
The parent accepts it by saying, 'Huh, that's an interesting way of thinking.'

This becomes the best 'thinking training.'
Of course, if there is an ethical problem or it is wrong as a person, please teach them properly.

I want you to value the process of thinking, not the correct answer.Also, please have a little expectation for the new values that emerge from there.

It is fine if their thinking is off, if they get stuck for words, or if they don't know the result.

What is important is the experience of 'having thought with one's own head.'

The child will not wait for instructions, can act even when there is no answer, and can grasp the essence of a problem.

To become such

'capable children'
'capable adults'
to train 'thinking skills'

For that purpose,
what you can do starting today is,

Do not teach the answer immediately; think together.
Show your own thinking and decision-making process.
Ask, 'Why? What do you think?'

It doesn't cost money, and it's simple. Please try incorporating it.

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