Doing it because I want to

There are many people who will do things for you. But there are some who get offended if you decline their kindness.

It's troublesome.

I understand the feeling. When you are about to do something fluidly and it is suddenly stopped, you feel off-balance. The flow is broken. The plan is ruined. Things don't go as you imagined. You get irritated by the unexpected.

Such people are 'small-minded'.

Because they are small-minded, they can only hold a little bit of water.

They cannot predict what the other person thinks of them.

If they try to predict it, it immediately overflows.

They cannot understand what kind of service the other person is looking for. They cannot understand that the other person does not want the service.

If they try to understand, it immediately overflows.

They cannot imagine the flow of conversation or the patterns of interaction when they provide that service to the other person.

If they try to imagine it, it immediately overflows.

That is why they provide the service they thought of immediately. Without waiting for the other person's timing. Because if they try to wait, it immediately overflows.

But they cannot hold back. Because if they try to hold back, it immediately overflows.

Anyway, they are 'small'.

Being small is not a bad thing at all.

It is just like a physical characteristic.

Some people have small noses, and some have large ones. It doesn't matter if they are large or small. Both have pros and cons that coexist depending on the situation.

Small-minded people are weak at 'interpersonal' matters.

Conversely, they are strong at 'object-oriented' matters. They are excellent at creating very good things.

An 'apple' is 'red'. So, is a 'red thing' an 'apple'? It's the same as that.

Are "people who can create good things" "people with small vessels"? No, they are not.

This is a story about how "people with small vessels" are bad at "interpersonal relations" and often fail at providing services.

Have you ever had the experience of annoying someone by doing something without any ill intent?

Perhaps all of the above are the cause.

You are providing a service without understanding "something" about the other person.

You provided a service. You had no ill intent. You had no murderous intent. -> "It should be accepted."

That's great. Your small-mindedness is vibrant. It's too short-sighted.

In interpersonal relations, there is no way that "A=B". There are cases of C and cases of M.

"If you start saying things like that, you won't be able to do anything!" That's right. First, let's try the "do nothing" pattern.

But people with small vessels cannot try it. Because there is no space to try.

In the first place, when you think of something, you want to "do it right away," right?

Because there is no space to be patient.

If so, it is better to act on everything with the foundation that "you might be disliked even if you have good intentions and no malice."

Don't want to be disliked?

Then let's "ask first."

"I am going to provide you with such-and-such a service now. Is that okay?"

This means "you cannot provide the service at the timing you thought of." You can't be patient, right? You want to surprise them and make them happy, right? You can only imagine the scene where the other person is happy, right? The result is left to luck, right? You might be disliked, right?

Moreover, even if the other person answers "It's okay" to the question "Is it okay?", it is unclear whether they will be happy in their heart as much as you thought.

Furthermore, just because they were happy in the past does not mean they will be happy now.

It makes you anxious, doesn't it?

To begin with, why do you want the other person to be at least a little happy, even if not to the same extent as you thought?

I think it's because your 'small vessel' is already full with the feeling that you 'want to be at least somewhat satisfied yourself'.

Once again, there is 'no' space for the 'other person' to enter.

Seriously, let's just give up.

If you are disliked, it overflows, and if you think about it, it overflows. It's too much of a hassle to even ask, right? You did it while anticipating that you 'might be disliked,' but when you actually are disliked, it 'overflows,' doesn't it?

You get depressed and feel bad, don't you?

Let's give up.

Give up on providing service? No, no. This note is full of stories about people who became so afraid they couldn't do anything. You know what happens, right?

A doctor says, 'Don't move. Stay quiet. Don't move until you've fully recovered.' That's because there's a high possibility of something bad happening, and their job is to make you avoid that. Their job is to help you recover.

'Let's just keep your heart beating.' 'Let's get some sleep.'

Certainly, 'overdoing it' is not good. 'Trying too hard' is not good.

But if you don't push yourself, you won't be able to obtain the 'world you desire.' And your vessel will remain just as small as it is.

Even so, if you don't provide service, you won't be able to gain the 'experience of having someone be happy'.

Even so, if you don't provide service, you won't be able to 'know a world you never even imagined'.

Unless you have the perseverance to at least grunt and stand up from a sitting position on the floor, 'your world' will not expand.

Unless you have the 'I've been disliked 120 times, but I'll try a little more' mindset, you won't be able to head toward that place.

'You've been disliked 120 times!? What are you doing! Take this medicine! Let's sleep! Let's live with only your heart beating!' I won't tell you to live a dead life, and that luck and time will solve it, maybe. That's a story about someone other than you, but there are tons of cases in the world where people got better that way. It's a story about someone other than you.

I wouldn't say that. I love Weekly Shonen Jump. 'When was your glory days?' 'Mine is right now.'

In the first place, the one who wants to provide service is 'you,' and it's 'now,' right? You can't hold back, can you? lol Then let's be strongly conscious of this 'want to do'.

That the 'source of the service' is 'yourself'.

The source of your actions is not 'the other person is in trouble,' 'the other person will be happy,' 'the other person will be better off,' 'the other person said they wanted it,' or 'the other person showed signs of wanting it.'

At any time, in any situation, and for any matter, 'the source is yourself.'

It's just that 'I'm doing this because I want to.'

Since your capacity is small, I think you'll often get complained at, looked at coldly, or feel down about things you did with good intentions.

Even so, I'd still say it: 'It will turn around somewhere; if you give up, the game is over right there.'

Though hospital doctors and patients who are hospitalized or visiting might get mad at me for saying that lol

I think to myself, 'We chose to be reborn to repeat this.'

And because my previous self wanted to live a life 'a little different' from before, I was born again from the same father and mother on September 8, 1976, with atopic dermatitis.

If you don't 'push yourself a little,' what are you going to do?

The reason I am breathing here right now is because there is a fact that when my previous self ended their last life, they 'wished for something' and 'hoped for a do-over.'

Of course, it's possible that 'I wish I hadn't pushed myself back then' is the reason for the do-over, though lol

But 'my previous self' should know that 'resting too much' and 'not trying enough' are not good things.

If you have something you want to do and want to try it, don't you think you don't need medicine or breaks? Why don't you just try it? You'll get hurt? Of course you will. You have a small capacity. You're like a child with poor balance practicing how to ride a bicycle. It's natural to fall and get hurt more than others. What are you talking about? You 'came here to do a do-over' in order to 'learn how to ride a bicycle without giving up,' right? What are you saying? What will you do? Listen to the doctor? Go to sleep?

Those who have read this far probably feel that the 'quality of service' has changed a little.

You're not thinking about 'the other person' right now, are you?

I think it has become a choice between two options: 'I will do it' or 'I will not do it.'

Huh? It hasn't? People like that are the ones who need medicine lol. Let's go to sleep lol

Don't push yourself lol

No, my note has 'poison' mixed in properly, so it's impossible for those who are weak to 'poison' to put it into practice.

In fact, if you are inspired by this note and perform a 'service' tomorrow, you might 'actually get disliked.' Because of that.

What I often say is, 'Let's get used to the poison.' I'm that kind of person. Doctors get angry at me for it.

Order is stable because it contains chaos.

It is precisely because you might be disliked that your service is appreciated.

You can only land a punch if you get inside the other person's guard.

Even if you know you'll get complaints, speaking your mind firmly and without fear is what resonates with others.

You could just take your medicine and sleep without doing any of that; you wouldn't get hurt, you wouldn't hurt anyone else, and the doctors would be happy. Patients are also happy because by 'gaining more peers,' they can find 'justification' for being sick. Why are you happy that 'the number of sick people has increased'? I think to myself, 'Well, you guys must have that kind of sickness, huh? lol'

What kind of life one leads is up to that person.

What choices you make during a 'do-over' are also up to you. It's different for everyone.

'The other person,' 'the other person,' 'the other person.'

If you see 'the other person' too much, you should just take your medicine and go to sleep.

If you don't like that,

'Myself,' 'myself,' 'myself.'

Even if you take some 'poison,' endure it 'a little.' Don't stop continuing. Erase 'the other person' from all matters and strongly recognize that 'I am doing this because I want to do it.'

You will become a little more broad-minded than the version of yourself that just took medicine and slept.

Little by little, you will become able to 'think,' 'put what you've thought into practice,' and 'increase the patterns of imagery when facing others.'

But, well, you can't really change the fact that you have a small capacity. It's a physical characteristic. It can only be changed by 'external factors' like 'plastic surgery,' 'medicine,' 'philosophy,' 'psychology,' or 'knowledge of the mind-body mechanism.' Even so, if you want to change it even a little, you have no choice but to accumulate 'internal factors' and 'actual experiences' in your tanden and expand your capacity from the inside.

I think it's common to realize a few years later that 'I thought I had changed, but that wasn't the case at all.'

I think I'll write about one survival strategy for such small-capacity people tomorrow.

Oh, it's fine.

Even if you want to read the next part, I don't need 'likes.' Subscribing or giving me a good rating doesn't encourage me.

I'm the kind of person who 'writes because I want to write.'

That's a lie.

Did you all know? 48-year-old boys are at that age where they want to act tough.

Huh? It's hard to read because I'm rambling? You want your time back? It's because everyone was feeling down. Because you acted like you wanted me to write.

I went to the trouble of writing this for everyone out of the goodness of my heart, and this is what I get. I'm depressed. I'm going to take my medicine and go to sleep.

lol