sql 语句 like 多个条件的写法

sql 
表A 
no name 
1   lu，li，zhang 
2   zhou，wei，liu 
3   li，fang 
表B 
no name  sex
1   li          1
2   lu         0
3   zhou    0
4   zhang  1 

怎么实现select * from A where A.name like (select B.name from B where B.sex=1)

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sqlserver写法
select distinct a.no,a.name from a,b where charindex(b.name,a.name)>0 and b.sex=1
 
oracle写法
select distinct a.no,a.name from a,b where instr(a.name,b.name)>0 and b.sex=1

----- instr() 定位子串 instr('Hello World', 'or')   返回8